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How to turn off read receipts, and the setting that overrides it

The question how to turn off read receipts sounds like it has a one-line answer, and on the surface it does: one switch in Messages, off. What complicates it is that Apple documents two levels of the setting — one for everybody, one per conversation — and attaches a note to each saying which of the two wins. Those notes sit below the instructions, and they are the part worth reading twice.

Start with what the setting actually sends, because it is narrower than it feels.

That distinction matters before you change anything. Turning read receipts off does not make you invisible; it removes one word. By Apple’s own description the sender still sees “Delivered”, so the message goes on reporting that it reached your device. What disappears is the confirmation that you opened it.

This is the whole reason the setting appears not to work. Someone turns Send Read Receipts off for everybody, checks with the one person they were worried about, and finds that person still seeing “Read”. Nothing is broken. At some earlier point read receipts were turned on inside that one conversation, and an individual setting is precisely the thing the general switch is documented not to touch.

So the honest instruction is two instructions. Turn the main setting off, then open the conversations you actually care about and check each one. Apple gives no screen that lists the contacts you have set individually, which means there is no way to audit them except one at a time.

The word to look for on the iPhone path is Apps. In Apple’s instructions Messages is not at the top level of Settings: every iPhone path on this floor runs Settings, then Apps, then Messages. If Messages is not where you expect to find it, that is the step to add.

One sentence that settles the commonest confusion. Apple: “You can’t turn on read receipts for anyone but yourself. To receive read receipts when your messages are opened, ask the recipient to turn them on.” Your setting decides what you send. It has no effect on what you see — turning yours off does not cost you theirs, and turning yours on does not earn you theirs.

One more consequence follows from that sentence, and it is worth stating plainly. Read receipts are not a mutual arrangement. Each person’s setting governs only what that person sends, so the two ends of a conversation can be set differently, and there is no screen on which either end can see how the other is set. Apple’s route to getting read receipts from somebody is not a setting at all: ask them. That is the only one the guide offers, and it is a fair description of what the feature is — a courtesy you extend rather than a permission you hold.

The floors below take it in four directions: what the two words mean and what stays visible either way, the two levels of the setting and the conflict between them, the green-bubble question, and the neighbouring settings people are usually looking for when they arrive here.

What this tower will not do

It will not tell you the main switch turns read receipts off everywhere. Apple’s own note says it does not, and that note is the most useful sentence on the subject.

It will not tell you whether the setting reaches RCS conversations. Apple documents that RCS supports read receipts and documents the setting under iMessage, and does not join the two. Where a source stops, this floor stops.

And it will not suggest a third-party app for reading messages without triggering a receipt. That is a category built on working around the setting rather than using it, and nothing on this island is going to recommend it. What holds instead is simple: the wording of “Read” and “Delivered”, the two notes about individual contacts overriding the general setting, every menu path, and the sentence that you cannot turn read receipts on for anybody but yourself are quoted from Apple’s user guides and support pages, listed below.